It's not your time... be patient

Yes, this is something easier said than done, but it's true so you must hold up on your end to get the reward you desire. Today's post stemmed from my favorite entertainment blogger known as NecoleBitchie; she has a personal blog now, and this post in particular spoke to me. I've clipped my favorite parts below (if you would like to read the entire blog post click here).

I needed to receive those words more than ever. It can be so discouraging to know what you want out of life and go for it, only to be rejected. There have been countless rejection letters from companies I would love to be apart of, with jobs I thought (while making God laugh) would be perfect for me; I now realize, it's not my time, I have to be patient.

It's funny how we can envision something but God's vision is greater in magnitude. I'm sure Brian Action had no idea he would be a billionaire this year, all he wanted five years ago was a development job. Be still, you never know what God is preparing you for. So to you all applying and constantly being denied, or wondering why things are happening for others and not you... wait your turn, it's coming; I just hope you're ready for what you will receive, because it's gonna be better than your wildest dreams !

*** P.S. There is this book 'Ask and it is given: learning to manifest your desires' by Esther and Jerry Hicks that I heard about on the finale of Being Mary Jane. The following quote sums up what the book is supposed to be about: "Everything that you're going through is preparing you for what you asked for". The universe already knows what we want, so every obstacle, setback and experience is supposed to lead you to your desires. I've already requested it at my local library and intend to dig in as soon as it's available for me. For those like me, seeking guidance on life's operatives, I think that this will be a good read. I'll keep you guys posted. Until next time my friends... Be Safe, Happy, & Prosperous.

Love the person you are now before you love the person you are becoming

Whitney once said: "learning to love yourself, is the greatest love of all". Aww what the hell, you need to hear it for yourself ! lol And if you know nothing of this legend of a vocalist, here's your introduction... you're welcome.

  

   

That song really just look me back to my childhood; I can remember being a brownie in Girl Scouts and it was my favorite at the time. I understood the words, but couldn't really feel them until now. It saddens me that children in this generation don't have positive music such as this to listen to; everything is either sex, drugs, or materialistically driven.

I could easily preach about loving yourself, but the truth is it has to be something you come to. I know because I had to learn how to love myself, and it did not happen overnight. More often than not, we are our worst critics in life. It wasn't until I took a deep look in the mirror that I started to love what I saw; and I must say it took some convincing. There's always that voice in your head second guessing everything because of others opinions combined with our belief of other's opinions, but you have to fight through that.

You are beautiful. You are intelligent. You are worthy. All it takes is for you to actually believe it, that's the first step. It's great to love the person you are becoming, there is so much potential in what you can be, but love who you are now, it starts on the inside. Work on the you now, so that the you later will be even more spectacular. Shut off the phone, TV, tablet, and anything else that distracts you and start working on loving yourself; look in the mirror, write the things you love about yourself, and the things you don't and can improve on, spend time alone; whatever it takes put in the work... you are worth it.

Just as everything else, chances have expiration dates

Ration out the chances you give to people, otherwise they will take advantage and keep using them up. It's okay to give people second chances, and in extenuating circumstances, three can be allowed... but that's it. Take it from me, once you've given out more than three, that person will get comfortable and will continue the behavior you don't approve, because they know you aren't going to do anything about it.

My never ending 'chance snatcher' is my father. I should have given up on him a long time ago, but the little small percentage that still wants to hold on to what little relationship we have won't let me. I've given him so many chances I can't even count; In my 24 years of life I've experienced more disappointment from one person than one can bare. Endless broken promises, and circular talks about nothing.

When my father showed me who he really was at the age of 16, I should have believed it; But I refused to abandon him as all of his family did, not that I blame them (due to his own warped sense of reality). I carried the burden of being there for him despite the horrible father he'd been to me. While in college I did cut all ties from him, and as you Ryders know, we just recently came back into contact with one another a few months ago (click here for a refresher). I'm in constant battle with myself when it comes to him. I don't want him in my life, yet I do. I know he will never be able to 'father' me the way I want, or give me solid advice on life.

Talking to him is like talking to a teenager in a 50-somethings body. Due to his excessive drug intake my entire life, his mentality ended when he began using. He doesn't know me. He can't relate to me. We only have DNA in common. Funny he still wants to take credit for my accomplishments, one's he had no input in; I am the woman I am today only because of God and my Mom, he won't ever get recognition for something he never did.

I find myself mad at myself for giving him chance after chance, feeding into what becomes broken promises, and letting him in. So my message to you is, pay attention. When you see who someone really is believe it, and if you can't deal with it leave them alone...even if they are family. Save yourself pain and heartache, you deserve peace and happiness. Start putting expiration dates on your chances, and if they can't get with it, shut them out. No one deserves to be in your life if they aren't enriching it.

Embrace the stage you're at

Everybody's gotta start somewhere. Stop comparing your life to others, your steps will be at your pace; just as your story will. Often times we look at others to pinpoint where we should be, but all it really does is magnify what we don't have. No one ever got to the top without passing the necessary levels, embrace the stage you're at.

So-what, you don't have everything you want or desire, let that motivate you. Whatever you want out of this life ask, believe and receive. But nothing comes without hard work, so don't expect any handouts. It's solely up to you to get back what you put out into the universe, so make sure it's positive.

Whether you are at the beginning, middle, almost-can-taste-it, or the top never forget the stages it took to get there. Everything in life has stages, and if you aren't where you want to be, it's never too late to start anew; And if you are where you want to be, appreciate it and enjoy it, because there is someone wishing they had your position.

Make the most of your days and don't take anything for granted. Embrace all that makes your story an original, all the good, bad and in between. What are you waiting for? Get started on your success story, there's an unborn generation that will need to hear what you've got to say. Go ahead... you've got to inspire the masses !

5 reasons...

These songs are my All time favorite

5.

Jay-Z- Lost One. This is the realest song I've ever heard. When you break down the dichotomy of relationships, and still know your worth, that's some amazing shit! lol. Let go to get one, lose some to win some... Story of a champion, sorry I'm a champion. The beauty about this song is that it applies to everything: professional, personal, & everything in-between. Jay-Z is one of those transparent artist that will give you the real whether it's good or bad, to me that's what makes him such a success. Moral of this classic is, know your worth or no one else will.

4.

Bobby Womack-If you think you're lonely now. This is an oldy but goody. There's something so great about a guy doing right and standing up for himself. It's a story: She's always complaining about me never being at home, but when I'm there I'm broke... I can't be in two places at one time. You have to hear it if you haven't, for all you women that don't appreciate a hardworking man, if you think you're lonely now... wait until tonight girl !

3.

Jesse Powell- You. I fell in love with this song at the age of 10. I've always said I wanted this song to be played at me wedding. This is one of those real love songs, that makes you feel like meeting someone that loves everything about you is attainable. The way you walk, the way you talk, the way you say my name your smile... I just wanna be yours from this day forward.

2.

Prince- Adore. Until the end of time I'll be there for you, you own my heart and mind... I truly adore you. What girl wouldn't want to hear those words from someone they love? It's a classic that will live on forever. I'm a sucker for sappy storytelling love songs, it's like taking the journey and living vicariously through the words lol. P.S. I had to stop myself from typing all the lyrics, because they are THAT good !

1.

Maxwell- This Woman's Work. If you're like me, your introduction to this song came from the movie Love and Basketball, which happens to be my favorite movie. I should be cryin' but I just can't let it show, should be hoping but I can't stop thinking... All the things we should have said that we never said, all the things we should have done that we never did. Although this is a remake from British singer Kate Bush, he makes it his own and in doing so, makes you drawn to the emotion behind it. Maxwell plus a falsetto is audible gold.

Your time as a Caterpillar has expired, your Wings are READY

The time is now to break out of that cocoon and show the world your beauty. You've hidden for long enough, it's time for your talent to breathe.

Break free and face your fears head on because they won't leave any other way. Fears are good for driving you towards your dream, they make you feel like that dream isn't attainable, but if you fight the fear instead of let it defeat you, you'll work even harder to get where you want to be.

Success is the difference between courage and coward, which are you? Take a stand for what you believe in, you have to believe it before anyone else will. Stop being your worst critic you are worthy of all the things you desire, never forget that.

So get started now, here's the push you've been waiting for. Put a smile on and roll those sleeves up, make a vision board, create a blueprint. No more excuses or apologies, just do it ! Go ahead and begin the path of your success story, we're traveling different routes but I can't wait to meet you at the top ! 

Don't Rush Your Progression, Drive Slow Homie

This one's for you, young teenage 'I think I know everything the world has to offer' you. The 'You can't tell me what I already know' you. The 'Fast money is all I know' you. And the 'It's my way or no way' you. 

Drive Slow Homie, Ya Never Know Homie You Need To 

 Pump Ya Breaks and Drive Slow Homie

Here's a news flash you don't know everything, you can't do it by yourself, fast money won't last, and your way isn't always the best way. Whatever you're doing in the fast lane with eventually catch up to you, and trust it won't be pretty. Stop rushing your progression and take your time, a home built without a solid foundation will crumble.

Teenagers, listen to your parent's and elders that give you advice, they aren't telling you anything that will harm you, it's for your own good because they love you; Don't rush to be grown, it's not at all what you envision it to be. Twenty-somethings just because you're out of your teens doesn't mean you are grown, there's still so much to learn in this life, take your time and do it right. Stubborn Thirties, yes you may be more established than your twenties but you don't quite have it all together either, you too can benefit from advice, even if it comes from an unexpected person.

The moral of this post is that no one person can survive alone, and no one knows everything. Everyone needs help and guidance, don't be too egotistical or prideful and miss out on that. Yes the fast life is enticing and seems fun and effortless, but at some point your pace will slow down, and then stop; Let your stop be in your hands and not someone else's, you can change your life, it's never too late. It's better to have a lifetime of gradual blessings than a temporary spurt of 'whatnot's' in the fast lane.

Can't be afraid of heights when you are destined to soar

 

What is your gift to the world? Now why are you concealing it? Don't be afraid to showcase your talent, it's what you were born to do. Keep trying to run away from it, trust me I know from experience, your destiny will hunt you down.

You will only reach the height you allow yourself to. Be fearless and give it all you've got, your only option is to prosper. There are so many blessings and opportunities that will present itself once you start doing what you love, aren't you ready to receive the fruits of your labor?

So what are you concerns? Most likely the opinions of others right? Well the fact of the matter is people will have an opinion about you regardless, don't let that be the reason you don't attain your dreams. Wanna give them something to talk about? Be great !

Fasten your seat belt and get ready for the ride of your life; your life truly begins when you are doing something you love, just wait and see. Kill those fears and get ready for years of bliss. Be brave, it'll all pay off eventually, and you deserve it. Can't wait to see you at the top !

Don't let your let-down be an excuse to shut-down

It's crazy how one instance, one person, or one decision can alter your life. It could be a plethora of things: job related, relationships, or problems within yourself. Don't let disappointments dictate your destination, you will live in sorrow forever if you do.

Yesterday I did something I have been needing to do, but haven't in a lonnngggg time... go to church. With the current events in my life, primarily trying to practice patience until God sends me my perfect job, and dealing with temporary people exiting my life, I needed some uplifting.

It's funny that I give you all inspiration daily, but I also need to be refueled as well. Often times I take from my personal experience as well as those around me in hopes that you all will grow with me, and hopefully can avoid things by learning from others experiences.

Needless to say, the sermon he preached was as if God spoke directly to me through him. It was based solely on walking by faith and not sight; He talked a lot about Genesis, primarily Joseph's journey from being enslaved to becoming the ruler of Egypt. It was powerful and just what I needed to hear, because although Joseph's brothers placed him into slavery out of spite, he never resented them or want revenge when they came to Egypt needing food and help.

When you are going throw in storm or trial, never think that you are alone. Disappointment doesn't mean that God has disappeared, nor do they justify disobedience. It's so easy to act out in violet or sexual ways because of situations that have happened to you, but the next time you feel that urge... do the complete opposite; No grand decisions are made based off of impulse, try resisting now and you will be glad you did later.

5 reasons...

You shouldn't hate Valentine's Day

(for Singles)

5.

Cliché. Who wants that perfect love story anyway? Anyway... cliché cliché cliché. Who wants that hero love that saves the day? lol okay who am I kidding? We ALL do ! lol. True enough, Valentine's Day is as cliché as "at the end of the day..." but the fact of the matter is, you hate Valentine's Day because you are single, we are in this together, our time is coming. You will get your Valentine and it will all be worth it... just believe it !

4.

Love yourself. If you are really bothered about today go do something about it. Drop the pity and go treat yourself. You deserve to be spoiled, and who better for the job than yourself? Buy yourself flowers, take yourself out to eat (if you don't want the crowds order takeout), or buy yourself something nice. Besides, people think Valentine's Day is only about a significant other, go out with friends or family... spread the love !

3. 

Sales. Those next day Valentine's Day sales are everything ! If your sweet tooth is anything like mine, you better get yo life and get some of that good 50% off candy and stop playin' around. As you can see, the candy I like is slightly expensive so I will definitely be taking advantage lol.

2.

One day. It's one day out of the year, just like Christmas and every other marketable monetary driven holiday. Don't sweat it, it'll be over with before you know it. Don't torture yourself comparing your life to everyone else's, trust me... everything is not what it seems. There are women buying gifts for themselves that have boyfriends and husband lol.

1. 

Not your time. So what you don't have a Valentine, maybe you haven't for years... it's okay. Be patient and your time will come, there's no need to hate and be a Debbie Downer about it lol. Know that God is taking his time to send you that special someone so that you are ready and appreciative when he/she does come along.

*** Here's a little something extra for the women, like myself, feeling unappreciated and overlooked on such holidays.This message really spoke to me, keep your morals ladies the right one will wait !  

Happy Valentine's Day !

Adventures with Allen: Unexpected Blessings

Often times people associate blessings with monetary value, but if you understand the concept of blessings you know that it has nothing to do with it...follow me. They say you don't know what you've got until it's gone, that saying couldn't be truer. Although I am still working with him, I find myself missing him on the weekends and currently, snow days. He has enriched my life in more ways than one, and I am more appreciative of so much more because of him.

It never seizes to amaze me how God works. He orchestrated things unbeknownst to you, and eventually... it all makes sense. I initially had no idea why God had picked me to work with Allen, but as time as past, now 5 months later, the message is so clear.

The beauty about our relationship is we feed off of each other. There are so many unspoken things between us that just magically syncs. When walking, he likes to have his arm intertwined in mine, like old gentlemen, only in reverse (I guess I am the man lol); And when one arm gets tired he likes to switch to the other side, at first I had no idea what he was doing, but now it's like second nature to switch spots with him. And he's so funny, we often just look at each other and laugh. Let's not forget his singing chops ! When I met him he wanted the radio off, often telling me "Turn that off, I don't like music"; Now he wants it loud so he can hear it, dance and sing along lol.

I guess more than anything we are more comfortable with each other. I have grown to love him, and as my Mom has noticed, I am very protective over him lol. He's basically the little brother I never had, so that's just basic instinct with me in regards to people I love. The thing I love most  about our relationship is we get each other, and it's genuine... especially from his end. When he misses me, he's gonna say it. When he's happy, he's gonna show it. And when he's upset he's gonna let me know and show it lol. It's refreshing to have complete acceptance, and an unbreakable friendship.

Allen is a rare gem. He doesn't let his disability define him, or deter him. I think that his strength and intelligence is beyond what was expected of him. And I'm just grateful to be apart of his life, he has definitely marked a spot on my heart. There is always someone appreciative with less than you have, so be grateful and find the beauty in each day.

is #2 the new #1?

This idea stemmed from a scene on last week's episode of Being Mary Jane. If you've never seen it, you are missing out on good modern-day in-your-face drama lol. Also before you continue reading, you should watch this episode to understand what I'm about to say.

If you're not first, you're last- Ricky Bobby

So there's this new theory that number 2 is the new number 1, not only on Being Mary Jane, but for every day women. Mary Jane is the face of many hardworking professional single women of all races. She is the daughter, the sister, the best friend, and quite possibly your local radio host, TV personality, doctor or teacher. Her girl-next-door vibe makes her relatable, and makes you gravitate to her; but I detached when she became ruthless in episode 4.

It's one thing to date a man and not know he's married, but once you find out he is, you being to take your frustrations out on his wife, who is really the victim. So telling her you have been sleeping with her husband isn't enough, you have to make a subliminal speech about the perks of being number 2. And as sad as it is, there are so many women that think like that. Women that think so little of themselves and have little to no self worth that to them, 2nd place is better than nothing. I'm here to tell you, 2nd will never overpower 1st, never has and never will.

And that's not just for personal relationships, the same goes for business. You've never seen a 2nd place CEO have you? Principal? or President? I think not. The title "Vice" is there for a reason. No one ever strives to be number 2 in life. Who really wakes up and says: "I want to be great but not that great"? I can guarantee you that no one is content being 2nd, not even the Vice President; he wants that number one spot. If you think 2nd is better, you are demoting yourself and your value. Don't be an option, be exceptional. You are worth that 1st place position.

But I want to hear from you all. What do you think? Is it okay with you to be #2? Or can #1 never be replaced? And what are your reasoning's? Comment below !

Expectations are bound to lead to disappointments

Never expect anyone to look out for you the way you look out for you. Expecting people to be there when it counts can be the rudest awakening one may receive. Pay attention to the people you give the privilege of being in your life, some may have ulterior motives.

Speaking from experience, you will find out who's really down for you in times of hardship. There is nothing worse than finding out someone you once considered a friend or more isn't supportive when it really matters. It could be anything: an event, a show, ill family members, or a dream. Pay close attention, the ones that really care will be there no matter what.

Don't expect anything from anyone, it'll save you a lot of heart ache. Man will fail you every time, but God will always be your clutch player. Depend on yourself, you won't ever let yourself down or disappoint yourself... and if you do, there is no one else to blame. God won't ever leave you hanging but you have to want more for yourself first.

Expectations are just like potential. Often times we see the potential in someone rather than what they really are, which leads us to expect certain things that aren't realistic because the person has been idealized to be something they aren't.

Just live your life and all of the surprises and spontaneity will be the cherry on top. You deserve to be happy, and expectations only create a hindrance. Save yourself the pain and free yourself of expectations, potential and possibilities... What's meant to be will be. 

An expert is just a novice that never gave up

It is my belief that if you keep working at anything, over time you will become an expert. Just think of your parents, they've more than likely cooked for you for over two decades or more; And if they are anything like my mom, they are quite the expert, often times eyeballing (without measuring cups) ingredients; but everyone has a beginning stage where they had no idea what they were doing, everyone has to start somewhere.

Often times it is easy to get discouraged because of what you don't know, or by the strenuous amount of time it takes to accomplish a goal. Anything worth having is worth the wait, and if it's worth it, it won't come easy; you have to work for what you want.

I know it can be tough at times to keep going when you feel like you aren't getting anywhere or going at the rate you feel you should, but never give up. If you keep working at something and stay dedicated you will eventually get where you need to be.

We are all novices at every stage of our lives, it is impossible to know everything. There will always be something new to learn, that's the beauty about life. No matter how hard it gets, or how discouraging things may seem, keep going... your dreams are worth it.

5 reasons...

I miss College

5. Group Projects. I despised group projects my entire collegiate career until my senior year. Being that I was a Mass Communications major we had a lot of video production/news package group related work. I will never forget the fun we had bringing our creative ideas together, although trying at time lol. What really made the group projects worth while were the ones done with friends, those memories will forever be embedded in my brain.

*** Here is one of my favorite group projects we did for our favorite professor. We made a song out of all of her sayings and teachings throughout the semester.
Needless to say she had no idea we were doing it in-between
 our actual projects, and brought tears to her eyes.

4.

Class. When friends are in your classes, it just makes the class worth while, even if you don't like it lol. My senior year was filled with friends and people I knew so let's just say there were no dull moments lol. I remember there not being an attendance policy in Media Law class, and me and two of my best buds skipped class to go eat lol. Sometime we would even walk in super late, but we all passed and graduated so no worries lol.

3.

Naps. I don't know what it is about college that makes naps so amazing; maybe it's the utter appreciation for them because of the lack of sleep in college. I had a federal work study job from morning to noon and all afternoon classes so everyday after work I would rush to my apartment to get a quick hour and a half- two hour (if I pushed it to the limit lol) power nap before class. I miss those coma naps more than anything.

2.

Food stamps. A lot of people don't know this, but if you're a full time student in college and have a federal work study job, working at least 20 hours a week you are eligible for food stamps. And for a broke college student such as myself that was music to my ears lol. I'm proud to say my roommates and I never ate ramen noodles or pb&j sandwiches, we ate good ! Shout out to all the Georgia taxpayers that contributed to my academic success through nutrition lol.

1.

 Refund checks. If you've ever attended college this is a no-brainer, well unless you paid out of pocket for your education, at which I commend you for; but for everyone else, those refunds were EVERYTHING ! Refund checks use that to float - J. Cole. You could always tell when the refund dropped before you even received a notification because twitter would be buzzing about the "Refund parties" lol. Plus there's nothing like a big lump sum of money to save, splurge on food or clothes, or all three like I did lol.

*** Guess what Ryders:
Today marks our 100th post !!! Thanks so much for all of the continued support, I really love you guys ! Here's to a million more !

Never Lose Sight of Your Worth

This pertains to every aspect of your life. Your worth is the main ingredient in how people perceive and treat you, so if you don't recognize it neither will anyone else. The worst thing you can do is give someone an open door to mistreat you, especially guys/girls. People only treat you the way you allow them to, so set parameters early and get the respect you deserve.

If someone you are dating isn't showing you that you are of importance or playing by your rules speak up. Growing up I was the timid kid that didn't like conflict and never took up for myself. And while I still don't like conflict I refuse to let someone disrespect me or treat me less than I deserve. Stand up for what you believe in and if that person can't get with it, let them go.

Jobs are another place where you have to teach people how to treat you. If you've ever worked in retail or customer service you are constantly told that "the customer is always right" but there's nothing right about rude people. It's okay to tell someone not to talk to you in a condescending way, even if it's your boss. Lol that's right I said your boss; people will continuously walk over someone that just takes the verbal abuse and never says anything; but people will respect someone that stands up for themselves, even if they don't like them.

Know your worth. Never let someone belittle you or defame your character. There will always be a rude person or someone that will test you, but once the test is given it's up to you to correct the failed attempt. Teaching someone how to treat you can be very draining, especially when you have to do it repetitively, but it's worth it. Put that confidence on and wear it. You are amazing and you deserve to be treated as such. I love and respect every last one of you all, thank you for rockin' with me.

There's no going back

Just keep going and don't look back

and look forward from where ya at

there's some jealousy in your rear view 

wave hello hello hello

That's right, you have no other option but to keep moving forward. The past is obsolete, all that matters is now. Concern yourself with today and there after. Each day given is an opportunity to grow and progress.

It can be so easy to consume yourself with issues from the past, but why not redirect your energy for the better? Stand up, be proud, and go towards what's yours; you are the only one that can make your dreams manifest.

On the days that you feel like giving up, or just want an off day, keep going. It may not seem like it at the time, but it will be worth it in the end. There will be no greater prize than the day you have accomplished your dream...just wait and see.

Whenever you feel discouraged or overlooked, remember one thing; you were placed on this earth to complete your purpose, don't stop until you have finished your mission. So what you're not getting recognition right now, be patient and work harder.

Today is yours, make the hours in this day mean something. Start the ground work. Remain focused. Fuel your own fire. There's no greater victory than winning when everyone counted you out, be exceptionally magnificent !

*** RIP Trayvon Martin, he would've been 19 today.

Restriction are for Cowards

Yes restrictions are inevitable life, from the time you are born until you die; but are you one that abides by all rules to play it safe, or do you go against the grain to get what you want.

“Well Behaved Women Rarely Make History.” -Eleanor Roosevelt

I'm not saying go rebel against the world, and break all the rules, but what I do condone is standing up for what you believe in... even if it is only yourself. Actually, standing up for yourself is the best thing you can possibly do. Don't allow people to put you in a box, dictate your potential, or downplay your talent. It's your talent you know what you are worth so show the world what you already know.

Only a coward would let restrictions stifle them from being great. Your future depends on what you will accept now. If you will let people belittle you and deter you now, your future will reflect as so; But if you choose to take a stand and work hard for what you believe in, your future will represent all that you are.

 Nothing is given in this life, you have to go after everything you want. Someone said you aren't good enough? Prove them wrong. Some said you would never make it? Prove them wrong. Someone you once admired tried to deter you from your dream. Prove them wrong !

If you believe everything someone tells you, then you should believe the positive over the negative; After all, there is always a positive in a negative. Did it ever occur to you that the people casting negativity once has a dream that was killed by someone else? Or didn't believe in themselves enough to go for it, which only made them resent you more for going after your dreams? They want you to fail because they believe you can succeed. Hurt people hurt people, it's not fair but such is life. Forget the restrictions and be brave ! You've got nothing to lose and everything to gain, go make that dream a reality !

The universe only reflects what it see's

Have you ever thought of what may have happened if you did something differently? That once instance in life that changed you forever, or altered your perspective? Or maybe something beyond your control that brought about the same outcome?

You know that "every action has an equal and opposite reaction" bit. Yeah... Newton was definitely on to something with that theory, in more ways than one. Everything you do has a consequence, be it good or bad. Karma, believed to be life's boomerang, can attest to that.

A recent incident in my life caused me to step back and evaluate exactly what I am putting out into the universe. This is essential in how people perceive me to be, as well as treat me. Long story short, I ended a friendship with someone I thought would be in my life forever. It's kind of like mourning the death of a relationship, but worse... because the person is still alive lol. Not sure if that came out as intended but, it's been rough letting go of a connection with someone I once had.

Music has been the key ingredient in my healing process, but in search of more peace I stumbled upon the eightfold path, thanks to one of my favorite songstress Jhené Aiko. It's a classic Buddhist teaching, but even if you don't practice it (like me), it's quite fascinating.

You can find more in dept details here, but I'll give you a quick synopsis from what I gathered. Basically, everything you think, say, and do equates to happiness when in harmony. This theory is reminiscent of the Laws of Attraction, and makes perfect sense if you ask me.

I encourage you to join me on this journey of finding complete happiness.We all want to acquire it, but in doing so we have to focus and work for it, in every aspect of our lives. Positivity is essentially the foundation, so eliminate all things negative and get started on your happy !