Who Are You Living For?

And I don't mean this in a bland or rhetorical way, really think about it...

I'm not saying your answer has to be deep and prophetic, but it does have to mean something or at least have purpose.

 So what is it exactly that gives your energy an extra boost every morning, or for the nocs, at night? Who is the underlying driving force within your heart? For me it's my passion, writing. I'm living to leave a legacy for my children's children. I'm living to leave my mark on this Earth that says I was here. I'm living to be legendary, but shouldn't we all be?

When asked this question, some people said they live for: their kids, family, spouse, or even pressing issues that mean something to them. There's nothing wrong with that, but where do you, yourself come into play? Who's living for you?

Some people live for everyone but themselves. They spend an entire lifetime making sure everybody is okay except themselves. Don't live a life of drab and turn around years later to live in regret. Take the opportunity now to change your life for the better. Start doing things that make you happy. Live for you, as selfish as that may sound.

 What are you gonna do today for yourself? Who are you gonna impress? Hopefully yourself. Living in the now, loving on you, focusing on you, being happy from you. Let your soul smile, be free. Be everything you were meant to be.

Comparison Is The Thief Of Joy

If you've wanted to know what your classmates have been up to, or how they're living, you'll know that social media is the devil. And I say that because it gives you a false positive. You see, most people on social media like to flex; so here you are all down and out because you feel you aren't living up to the standard of your fellow classmates, while most of them are frontin' and flexin' on the daily.

I used to beat myself up in college, because I graduated a year later than I was "projected" to. And when I sat down, I realized it only mattered to me, and everyone in my life that supported me was just happy that I was graduating at all.

Don't let someone else's perspective interfere with your own. Nobody's life is better than the next, no matter what you see on social media. Take the time to focus on your own growth, and just simply live.

The only competition you should be in is with yourself. Stop worrying about the next man and get with your best plan, at your future. This life is a one-shot opportunity, don't waste it consumed with the lives of others that ultimately have nothing to do with your personal growth and prosperity.

Keep your joy. Live your life. Compare your new self to your old self.

NOMO FOMO

Do you sometimes wish you could be in two places at once? Do you get anxiety about missing things/events? Do you get jealous when your friends go out and you can't make it? Chances are you have a fear of missing out. You'd be surprised how many people have it, so many people want to create memories, and the thought of missing out on them can be overwhelming.

In college I struggled a lot with F.O.M.O. I'm a city girl so moving to a small town was a big adjustment. I remember looking at friends and cousin's Instagram hating that I couldn't make it to a club, dinner, or where ever because it was almost two hours away, and I had a paper due or school commitment the next day. I was in a rush to graduate because I was tired of missing out on the fun, or so I thought.

I'm here to tell you that, looking back, I didn't miss out on anything that wasn't destined for me to experience. Enjoy life. You aren't missing anything. You are exactly where you need to be, don't second guess it. And please know that things aren't always as they seem. Sure those pics on Insta look like people are having the time of their lives, when in reality that smile could fade just as quickly as the flash on their cameras.

I hate to keep mentioning J Cole but you've truly gotta Love Yourz. There's no such thing as a life that's better than yours. Stop comparing your life to peers, everyone's journey is different for a reason. Just enjoy life, don't force it. Everything that is meant for you will come, just have a little faith.

5 Reasons...

To Bet On You

5. You Are EVERYTHING. Don't you ever go second guessing yourself. You have what it takes to be great. Let go of whatever is holding you back and go for it. Your dreams are only as believable as you are.

4. You Are Dependable. If you can't depend on anyone else, who is that guaranteed support? That's right yourself. Like Beyonce said:"I know that I will never disappoint myself." Count on you and your dreams will come true!

3. You Are Worthy. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to shine. Bet on you and you'll never get left behind.

2. You Are Custom. There is no one like you in this world. Some may have similarities but you are a rare gem custom-made by God himself. Don't let anyone try to diminish your unique, you were born this way.

1. You Are Brilliant. Your ideas matter. Your gift matters. And it's only right that you showcase that to the world. Don't second guess yourself, you have it in you, all you've gotta do is use it.

5 Reasons...

Mistakes Are Okay

5. They Make You Great. Think of a mistake as a re-do. Everything you did wrong the first time should be all the ammo you need to create a masterpiece the second, third, or hundreth time.

4. They Inspire. They say "when you're down the only way is up" and what better way to get motivated than to gain inspiration off of your mistakes?

3. They Shape. Mistakes have a way of making you more persistent than ever. Mistakes ultimately shape you into the person you are destined to be.

2. They Humble. There's no better truth serum than a "no" or a missed opportunity. Humbling experiences create humility, don't be ashamed, everyone needs a dose of humble pie every once in a while.

1. They Teach. Above all, the mistakes teach you to give your all. They make you stronger, wiser, and ultimately better. Look at a mistake as a means of another direction, just a small detour to you destination; you'll still get there, just not as easily as you'd hope.

All Ladies Should B.Y.O.B

**Disclaimer: This will not be a post about alcohol lol. There's always a method to my madness, just ryd with me.

So what's B.Y.O.B? Believe in Your Own Beauty.

You is kind.

You is smart,

You is important.

In the words of the late great Dr. Seuss:

 "You are you, that is truer than true, there is no one alive that is youer than you"

Believe in yourself. You are a classic that can never be replaced. You bring substance, passion and brilliance. Sure there will always be somebody smarter, prettier, and appealing but they aren't you. What is something special about you that no one can take away? That's your gift, let it radiate.

Don't ever let somebody try to diminish your worth, your beauty, your being. You are everything you were meant to be. You possess the power to shine through trying times, and live like you haven't been through a thing.

Embrace your beauty. You are specially made for the right souls to appreciate. Harvest your greatness and only showcase it to the ones that will appreciate it the most. Go be great, you don't have a choice!

Dreams Pick You

It's true. But it's fear, doubt, and lack of ambition that inevitably sabotages it all. We've all encountered something we love doing, something that makes life worthwhile, yet overlook or stray away from pursing it because it doesn't seem feasible.

You'll never know how far your dreams can take you until you tap into it. Believe in your gift, work towards mastering your craft, and live your dream. There are too many positives to let one negative set you back. It doesn't matter how long it takes you to accomplish your goal, just as long as you do it. It could take years to ultimately get where you want to be, but you'll thank yourself later.

Just think of how grand life could be if you set aside all the reasons you shouldn't do something, and finally decide to just go for it. I don't know about you but I'm ready to reap the benefits of my hard work and sacrifice. There's no reason you shouldn't go for it, the dream won't just magically go away because you're afraid of failure.

Dream big, and most importantly don't let yourself down. Go for it even if it seems impossible. You'll meet people along the way that will help you and can possibly become a mentor. If you want to be great it will radiate, and when people see how much you believe in yourself so will they. What are you waiting for? Take an inch towards your mile today!

Today: Come What May

Wake up with the attitude of champions. Nobody knows what each day will bring, but you've gotta be well equipped to face good or bad encounters with strength and tolerance. Have you ever felt like today is history and tomorrow is a mystery? Like you have no earthly idea what's coming at you next, but you pray to God you can handle it?

Don't let the obstacles that come your way deter you from your ultimate goal. Things may set you back, but don't let anything completely stop you. You've gotta have that Kanye mentality and drive with full force towards what it is you believe in; after all, no one will believe in you if you don't first believe in yourself.

It's okay to be a little scared or even unsure, but don't let fear be the reason you didn't go after your dreams. Start saying your mantra today: "Come What May, I will breathe success out of this day." Obstacles and trials will come, but allow yourself to live without holding on to the edge. Make everyday count for something, don't sit around waiting for the next incident to happen, you owe yourself more than that.

And dare not compare your life to others, there is no comparison when you are looking at good and great. It's as simple as silver and gold, hierarchy exists regardless. In the words of J Cole "Love Yourz"

No such thing as a life that's better than yours

 

I will LIVE!

Sometime you've gotta be your own cheerleader, not everyone you support will reciprocate. It's okay, as long as you have a goal and a vision nothing can ultimately stop you but YOU. You've gotta choose to live, in all of life's peaks and valleys, spirals and edges, you've gotta fight for what you believe.

Choose to live and chase your dreams, don't expect anyone to do it for you. Choose to be the exception instead of the rule; Live in your truth: your natural born gift, trust me you'll thank yourself later.

Don't let doubt, fear, naysayers, dream-killers or your opponents distract you from your ultimate goal. After all, you don't wanna regret not going for what it is that you love for the rest of your life. Give it your all, drive it through until you get where you want to be, everything will work out as it should.

You will never know the beauty that life has to offer if you give up. More importantly, you want to establish a legacy that will stand the test of time. Don't give up on yourself because I'm not giving up on you.

P.S. I love all of my Ryders, thanks so much for all of the love and continued support, you guys are literally EVERYTHING!

Back In It, Been A Minute

Wassup my Ryders! I'm Back! One thing I've learned throughout this year hiatus (yes it's been a little over a year, I can hardly believe it myself) is that I absolutely love and miss what this blog, and what all of you readers mean to me. In saying that, I cannot promise you a blog everyday but rest assure I'm back for good.

I feel like I should write this long drawn out open letter to you guys to update you, but nobody cares, just keep putting out content right? lol. Needless to say I've been doing some serious soul searching and in doing so it led me back here. Any-who I hope you all have been well, and more importantly I hope you all have grown tremendously.

With that being said, I hope you all have been inspired in some way or another during my hiatus. That's the beauty about life, there is always something to take from each journey. I hope that I can continue to bring creative content to you guys, and I intend to be inspired by you all, just as you all are inspired by me.

No matter what life throws at you, nothing can ultimately stop you from achieving your dreams but you. Even if you've taken a break, lost interest, or fell out of love with your dream don't give up because your dream didn't give up on you. Everything is attainable if you just believe.

OKAY that's enough hoopla for one post lol thanks for all of the love and continued support, and I will catch you all in the next post.

5 easonsRay...

I wanna hear a Pig Latin song 

5. OveLay. How many ways can I spell the words ? How many trees can be filled with birds?

4. RilliantBay. Do you see what I see? What a beautiful reflection starring back at me !

3. EarlessFay. If you don't want me then don't talk to me go ahead and ____ yourself.

2. NtertainingEay. L-O-N-G ickDay

1. Ilarioushay. Try saying your name in Pig Latin 5 times fast, then imagine it over a dope song. AndisCay x 5, here's the song in my head lol.

And here's a lil sum for those that never have heard a pig Latin song, can you make one better?

 

 

If It Ain't Good You Gotta Jugg !

I heard this quote from Scrappy and I must say it's the realest shit I've heard in a min. It's never not nothin' if it ain't good, but that's just my personal opinion lol. I mean seriously, what good is good if it doesn't exist? I'm like TIP I don't want no mediocre NOPE ! Lol

Imma let that marinate...

Lol back to the topic at hand, why stay if you can't play? Why settle when you can meddle... Wait let me rethink that one lol, sounds quite stalker-ish and I'z don't promote such things on diz hea site massa ! Lol

Digressing... One should always be searching for good, hell better than good at all times. If not you need to be juggin' to the next because better is always within reach, you just gotta stretch that mental capacity to newer heights.

For those that missed the entire message, here it goes... YOU MISSED IT ! Lmao good day young lads please do have a marvelous day of countless pleasantries !

Do You Prefer Frisbee's or Boomerang's?

Yes Frisbee's or Boomerang's. There's no middle or in-between you've gotta pick one. If you aren't sure, come and take a walk with me.

Frisbee's are the people that come into your life, take a lot but give a little, use and abuse, and never appreciate you. You release them to the world and they never return. You categorize them as Frisbee's or lessons because they weren't destined to be in your life forever, even if you really want them to.

Boomerang's are the people that know your worth but don't feel deserving of your presence. This has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with them. They love and appreciate you but have so much going on within themselves they run away because they can't make sense of it. But what makes them different from Frisbee's, is that a Boomerang will return. A Boomerang will come back with more passion, knowledge and unconditional love for you because they see the gold in your soul.

In saying that, be cautious because Frisbee's and Boomerang's can appear to be either or; It's up to you to decipher the two. Just as beautiful people can be ugly inside, and ugly people can be beautiful inside... it's all the same. Listen, observe, and think logically. Your life is yours, you get to decide who you want in it and who should go away. But take it from me, negative people will only stifle you even if you find the positive in them. Keep positive people around you and you will receive the best gift ever known to man-kind... PEACE !

Dreams Don't Come True... They're Made

There's such naivety in the thought that dreams can come true, sure than can but you have to make them. Here's some truth serum for that ass, there is no magic carpet unless you make it, and there sure as hell ain't no magic genie unless you're acting as one for Halloween ! Lol

Get that cloud bubble of fiction out of your head and start livin', your dreams don't create themselves you do. Love yourself, love others & love what you do. Never second guess your talent and if you do, make sure you have some real "no-men" around you to keep you in check. And by no-men I mean the people that will call you out on your shit in a heartbeat, that's what real love is.

So to all you that think that football player is gonna "save" you and change your life forever, or to those men that think they can manipulate every walking female to get what they want for some sense of fulfillment, guess again. When you do things will malicious intent it comes back tenfold... it's called karma or what I like to call a thorn covered boomerang lol.

Until next time my loves, keep on pushin' onward and upward ! :)

Some Days You Want To Relive Forever, But What If Life Get's Greater Each Day?

They say without storms one wouldn't know how to appreciate the sunlight. But without sunlight can one appreciate the storm? I've been asking myself this question, as I've experienced and endured the biggest storm of my life. So much confusion, and questions arose as to why it happened to me, why I was the chosen one; But today I say why not? why not me? why not get through the storm, come out stronger and prepared for my blessings?

True enough I wouldn't want to relive these past two weeks again, but at the same time I'm grateful because it freed me;catch-22 the hard way lol. I released all of my demons that were holding me down, and now feel like nothing can stop me because God's got me.

There's nothing like the security that God provides. Knowing that no matter what obstacles arise, and they will, He'll be right by your side every step of the way. That kind of love is what I've been desiring my entire life, sure I've had my Mom provide it exceptionally well, but a Father... I thought I'd been overlooked until now.

So now I am looking forward to the future, no need to look back because I've already been through that. There's only happiness and prosperity on the roads I'll travel from here on. God has witnessed my struggle and now has blessed me anew, and I couldn't be more grateful. I'm ready to live an infinite amount of happy days, loving God and my family, and bettering myself with each passing day.

Happy Labor Day Ryders, I Love You All Tremendously !