Comparison Is The Thief Of Joy

If you've wanted to know what your classmates have been up to, or how they're living, you'll know that social media is the devil. And I say that because it gives you a false positive. You see, most people on social media like to flex; so here you are all down and out because you feel you aren't living up to the standard of your fellow classmates, while most of them are frontin' and flexin' on the daily.

I used to beat myself up in college, because I graduated a year later than I was "projected" to. And when I sat down, I realized it only mattered to me, and everyone in my life that supported me was just happy that I was graduating at all.

Don't let someone else's perspective interfere with your own. Nobody's life is better than the next, no matter what you see on social media. Take the time to focus on your own growth, and just simply live.

The only competition you should be in is with yourself. Stop worrying about the next man and get with your best plan, at your future. This life is a one-shot opportunity, don't waste it consumed with the lives of others that ultimately have nothing to do with your personal growth and prosperity.

Keep your joy. Live your life. Compare your new self to your old self.

Dreams Pick You

It's true. But it's fear, doubt, and lack of ambition that inevitably sabotages it all. We've all encountered something we love doing, something that makes life worthwhile, yet overlook or stray away from pursing it because it doesn't seem feasible.

You'll never know how far your dreams can take you until you tap into it. Believe in your gift, work towards mastering your craft, and live your dream. There are too many positives to let one negative set you back. It doesn't matter how long it takes you to accomplish your goal, just as long as you do it. It could take years to ultimately get where you want to be, but you'll thank yourself later.

Just think of how grand life could be if you set aside all the reasons you shouldn't do something, and finally decide to just go for it. I don't know about you but I'm ready to reap the benefits of my hard work and sacrifice. There's no reason you shouldn't go for it, the dream won't just magically go away because you're afraid of failure.

Dream big, and most importantly don't let yourself down. Go for it even if it seems impossible. You'll meet people along the way that will help you and can possibly become a mentor. If you want to be great it will radiate, and when people see how much you believe in yourself so will they. What are you waiting for? Take an inch towards your mile today!

Your Time's Comin, Just Wait On It

It's funny because I write these blog posts to inspire others, when in reality I'm simultaneously having a conversation with myself. I suppose there's nothing wrong with that, perhaps I'm simply killing two bird with one stone; but who throws rocks at birds anyway? lol

On to the blog. How many of you are or have been like: "when is my turn?", "when do I find the love of my life?", "when will I find something I'm passionate about?", "where and when will my next blessing come from?" I've thought all of these things at one point or another and the answer is you don't. You don't know, and you have to play the waiting game, but trust and believe everything will manifest in God's perfect timing.

Lately nearly all of my fb friends (not all I'm being dramatic) are getting engaged. which don't get me wrong, it's a beautiful thing; but I can't help but think "when will I be up next?" It's normal, it's human, and it's natural. My current mantra, and don't kill me for continuously shoutin' J Cole out, but "there's no such thing as a life that's better than yours".

And it couldn't be any more truthful. No matter how happy, in-love, successful, stress-free, or well put together someone looks doesn't mean that things are all peachy on their end. Everybody. and I mean EVERYBODY is going through something, don't be fooled by the IG facade.

One thing I've had to do was stop comparing my life to others. We are all born with different identities for a reason, and let's face it, if you knew when and where everything was gonna happen that would be quite a boring life to lead.

So my advise to you as well as myself, is to stick it out and just wait on it. Your season is coming and you better believe the wave of blessings you'll receive will be far greater than your wildest dreams. Don't wait around for your life to begin, start creating life now, the rest is just the juicy cherry on top!

Today: Come What May

Wake up with the attitude of champions. Nobody knows what each day will bring, but you've gotta be well equipped to face good or bad encounters with strength and tolerance. Have you ever felt like today is history and tomorrow is a mystery? Like you have no earthly idea what's coming at you next, but you pray to God you can handle it?

Don't let the obstacles that come your way deter you from your ultimate goal. Things may set you back, but don't let anything completely stop you. You've gotta have that Kanye mentality and drive with full force towards what it is you believe in; after all, no one will believe in you if you don't first believe in yourself.

It's okay to be a little scared or even unsure, but don't let fear be the reason you didn't go after your dreams. Start saying your mantra today: "Come What May, I will breathe success out of this day." Obstacles and trials will come, but allow yourself to live without holding on to the edge. Make everyday count for something, don't sit around waiting for the next incident to happen, you owe yourself more than that.

And dare not compare your life to others, there is no comparison when you are looking at good and great. It's as simple as silver and gold, hierarchy exists regardless. In the words of J Cole "Love Yourz"

No such thing as a life that's better than yours

 

Failure Is Simply A Restart

So you didn't exactly get that job you were hoping for, that car, or that grade... it's okay. You've gotta stop looking at failure as the finish line and reboot your butt back to the starting point.

If you want to be successful in anything, a word you have to become all too familiar with is "NO"; You'll hear it more than you would like to (in many different forms), but let that 'no' mean "try again". That's the beauty about life, if one route doesn't work, pick a new one; If one person says "we aren't interested", chances are, there will be someone who is.

Like J.Cole said: "We all got dreams and we got the right to chase them." There is ultimately no reason for you to stop chasing your dreams. The very minimum thing you can do is try, if it doesn't work out don't give up, your mistakes will only make you better.

Failure is simply a fork in the road, two options, one outcome. Try one route and if it doesn't work, trek like hell towards your destiny in the other direction. Perseverance is what separates the great from the good. So go ahead and make the most of this Monday, you've already got the restart of a new week to catapult you where you need to be!

Back In It, Been A Minute

Wassup my Ryders! I'm Back! One thing I've learned throughout this year hiatus (yes it's been a little over a year, I can hardly believe it myself) is that I absolutely love and miss what this blog, and what all of you readers mean to me. In saying that, I cannot promise you a blog everyday but rest assure I'm back for good.

I feel like I should write this long drawn out open letter to you guys to update you, but nobody cares, just keep putting out content right? lol. Needless to say I've been doing some serious soul searching and in doing so it led me back here. Any-who I hope you all have been well, and more importantly I hope you all have grown tremendously.

With that being said, I hope you all have been inspired in some way or another during my hiatus. That's the beauty about life, there is always something to take from each journey. I hope that I can continue to bring creative content to you guys, and I intend to be inspired by you all, just as you all are inspired by me.

No matter what life throws at you, nothing can ultimately stop you from achieving your dreams but you. Even if you've taken a break, lost interest, or fell out of love with your dream don't give up because your dream didn't give up on you. Everything is attainable if you just believe.

OKAY that's enough hoopla for one post lol thanks for all of the love and continued support, and I will catch you all in the next post.

Are you Buffering or BS-ing?

You know the saying 'fake it til you make it'? On one hand, you are pursuing your dreams, but on the other hand you technically aren't living in the now. Needless to say I prefer the realistic approach as it pertains to all things. I say pick a lane and commit to it. You won't fully invest toward anything without a definite commitment.

If you aren't afraid, analyze yourself for a moment. What is it that you want out of this life? Why do you want it? And lastly, how do you intend to get it? If you can answer these three questions elaborately then you're on your way.

There comes a time (some much sooner than later) when you have to stop making excuses and execute a plan. And when that time comes, there lies an inevitable question: Are you Buffering or BS-ing? While the two can be misconstrued as equals, there is a great divide; It's okay to buffer, when you're in buffer mode things are getting done, slower than others, but getting done none the less; It's kinda the equivalent of "slow money is better than no money." Oh but when you BS to the best of them lol nothing is getting done, all talk no action.

I challenge you to throw away anything that is holding your greatness captive; Excuses, fear, doubt, or whatever it may be let it go. Get rid of all negative energy telling you you can't do something and hone in on that inner voice that is dying to be released. Take control of your life and buffer like hell if need be. Make a plan, create a vision board, feed off of inspiration, consult with a friend or mentor. The only thing stopping you from attaining your dreams and goals is you, take a leap of faith and try. Try and if you fail at least you know you've given it your all.



P.S. Hey my beautiful Ryders! I've missed you all so much, and I'm so grateful to be back. This time I'm back for real and for good! I will be writing 2-3 posts a week to get my feet wet again. Until next time or next post, be safe and blessed!

Dreams Don't Come True... They're Made

There's such naivety in the thought that dreams can come true, sure than can but you have to make them. Here's some truth serum for that ass, there is no magic carpet unless you make it, and there sure as hell ain't no magic genie unless you're acting as one for Halloween ! Lol

Get that cloud bubble of fiction out of your head and start livin', your dreams don't create themselves you do. Love yourself, love others & love what you do. Never second guess your talent and if you do, make sure you have some real "no-men" around you to keep you in check. And by no-men I mean the people that will call you out on your shit in a heartbeat, that's what real love is.

So to all you that think that football player is gonna "save" you and change your life forever, or to those men that think they can manipulate every walking female to get what they want for some sense of fulfillment, guess again. When you do things will malicious intent it comes back tenfold... it's called karma or what I like to call a thorn covered boomerang lol.

Until next time my loves, keep on pushin' onward and upward ! :)

Some Days You Want To Relive Forever, But What If Life Get's Greater Each Day?

They say without storms one wouldn't know how to appreciate the sunlight. But without sunlight can one appreciate the storm? I've been asking myself this question, as I've experienced and endured the biggest storm of my life. So much confusion, and questions arose as to why it happened to me, why I was the chosen one; But today I say why not? why not me? why not get through the storm, come out stronger and prepared for my blessings?

True enough I wouldn't want to relive these past two weeks again, but at the same time I'm grateful because it freed me;catch-22 the hard way lol. I released all of my demons that were holding me down, and now feel like nothing can stop me because God's got me.

There's nothing like the security that God provides. Knowing that no matter what obstacles arise, and they will, He'll be right by your side every step of the way. That kind of love is what I've been desiring my entire life, sure I've had my Mom provide it exceptionally well, but a Father... I thought I'd been overlooked until now.

So now I am looking forward to the future, no need to look back because I've already been through that. There's only happiness and prosperity on the roads I'll travel from here on. God has witnessed my struggle and now has blessed me anew, and I couldn't be more grateful. I'm ready to live an infinite amount of happy days, loving God and my family, and bettering myself with each passing day.

Happy Labor Day Ryders, I Love You All Tremendously !

Why dwell when you can revel ?

How long are you going to live in the past, hold grudges, and think "what if"? Dwelling on the past will only stifle you in the long run. You will never live up to your full potential if you allow your past to define your future. Stop letting failed relationships, jobs, and experiences consume you; Let it go and move on, everything happen for a reason, and what's meant to be will be, no matter the circumstance... what's rightfully yours will always prevail.

Just take a moment and think how peaceful life could be if you just let things go. Isn't that an amazing space to be in? You can have that serenity, it's yours for the taking ! Stop holding on to dead weight and hopeless "could have been's". Free yourself and you will open up possibilities you've never imagined before.

Whatever is holding you back or deterring you, reverse that energy. Let those obstacles fuel your drive to get to your goal. Give those nonbelievers something to talk about; First they will ask why you are doing it, but later they'll ask how you did it.

Revel in your uniqueness, embrace your flaws, and love yourself; There is no better love than self-love, you have to know your worth so that others will acknowledge it. This goes for jobs, relationships and life in general, no one will appreciate what you have to offer unless you believe in it first.

Today I challenge you to release those demons that stifle you from living in the present, and revel in the moment... be the best you, you can be and everything else will fall into place. Don't focus on the things you don't have and redirect your focus on the bigger picture. Make today be the fresh start you've been running from. After all, the new year is fast approaching and what better way to welcome it by eliminating all things that keep you from growing.

Feel the fear and do it anyway !

Ever felt like good enough isn't good enough? I struggle with this daily. Am I a good enough writer to engage readers? Will people eventually catch on? How will I ever get far being positive in a world where people gravitate towards negativity?

I am in constant battle trying to shake fear of rejection, failing, and unveiling my truth. I often wish that this journey through life came with a blueprint or at least a spell checker to correct me along the way. Why can't there be somebody who sees my future and can guide me by telling me if I'm hot or cold? Lol If only...

I have been thinking about my future lately and I just wish I could take a 5 minute peek just for inspiration. But the surprises wouldn't mean as much and neither would the journey.

I say all of this to say, you are not alone in your fears and goals. If your dreams don't scare you they aren't big enough. Life is about taking risks, stepping out on faith and standing for what you believe in. Keep pushing towards your dream no matter how hard it may be; never give up because you never know how close you may be to attaining what you set out to obtain.