NOMO FOMO

Do you sometimes wish you could be in two places at once? Do you get anxiety about missing things/events? Do you get jealous when your friends go out and you can't make it? Chances are you have a fear of missing out. You'd be surprised how many people have it, so many people want to create memories, and the thought of missing out on them can be overwhelming.

In college I struggled a lot with F.O.M.O. I'm a city girl so moving to a small town was a big adjustment. I remember looking at friends and cousin's Instagram hating that I couldn't make it to a club, dinner, or where ever because it was almost two hours away, and I had a paper due or school commitment the next day. I was in a rush to graduate because I was tired of missing out on the fun, or so I thought.

I'm here to tell you that, looking back, I didn't miss out on anything that wasn't destined for me to experience. Enjoy life. You aren't missing anything. You are exactly where you need to be, don't second guess it. And please know that things aren't always as they seem. Sure those pics on Insta look like people are having the time of their lives, when in reality that smile could fade just as quickly as the flash on their cameras.

I hate to keep mentioning J Cole but you've truly gotta Love Yourz. There's no such thing as a life that's better than yours. Stop comparing your life to peers, everyone's journey is different for a reason. Just enjoy life, don't force it. Everything that is meant for you will come, just have a little faith.

Today: Come What May

Wake up with the attitude of champions. Nobody knows what each day will bring, but you've gotta be well equipped to face good or bad encounters with strength and tolerance. Have you ever felt like today is history and tomorrow is a mystery? Like you have no earthly idea what's coming at you next, but you pray to God you can handle it?

Don't let the obstacles that come your way deter you from your ultimate goal. Things may set you back, but don't let anything completely stop you. You've gotta have that Kanye mentality and drive with full force towards what it is you believe in; after all, no one will believe in you if you don't first believe in yourself.

It's okay to be a little scared or even unsure, but don't let fear be the reason you didn't go after your dreams. Start saying your mantra today: "Come What May, I will breathe success out of this day." Obstacles and trials will come, but allow yourself to live without holding on to the edge. Make everyday count for something, don't sit around waiting for the next incident to happen, you owe yourself more than that.

And dare not compare your life to others, there is no comparison when you are looking at good and great. It's as simple as silver and gold, hierarchy exists regardless. In the words of J Cole "Love Yourz"

No such thing as a life that's better than yours

 

Are you Buffering or BS-ing?

You know the saying 'fake it til you make it'? On one hand, you are pursuing your dreams, but on the other hand you technically aren't living in the now. Needless to say I prefer the realistic approach as it pertains to all things. I say pick a lane and commit to it. You won't fully invest toward anything without a definite commitment.

If you aren't afraid, analyze yourself for a moment. What is it that you want out of this life? Why do you want it? And lastly, how do you intend to get it? If you can answer these three questions elaborately then you're on your way.

There comes a time (some much sooner than later) when you have to stop making excuses and execute a plan. And when that time comes, there lies an inevitable question: Are you Buffering or BS-ing? While the two can be misconstrued as equals, there is a great divide; It's okay to buffer, when you're in buffer mode things are getting done, slower than others, but getting done none the less; It's kinda the equivalent of "slow money is better than no money." Oh but when you BS to the best of them lol nothing is getting done, all talk no action.

I challenge you to throw away anything that is holding your greatness captive; Excuses, fear, doubt, or whatever it may be let it go. Get rid of all negative energy telling you you can't do something and hone in on that inner voice that is dying to be released. Take control of your life and buffer like hell if need be. Make a plan, create a vision board, feed off of inspiration, consult with a friend or mentor. The only thing stopping you from attaining your dreams and goals is you, take a leap of faith and try. Try and if you fail at least you know you've given it your all.



P.S. Hey my beautiful Ryders! I've missed you all so much, and I'm so grateful to be back. This time I'm back for real and for good! I will be writing 2-3 posts a week to get my feet wet again. Until next time or next post, be safe and blessed!

If It Ain't Good You Gotta Jugg !

I heard this quote from Scrappy and I must say it's the realest shit I've heard in a min. It's never not nothin' if it ain't good, but that's just my personal opinion lol. I mean seriously, what good is good if it doesn't exist? I'm like TIP I don't want no mediocre NOPE ! Lol

Imma let that marinate...

Lol back to the topic at hand, why stay if you can't play? Why settle when you can meddle... Wait let me rethink that one lol, sounds quite stalker-ish and I'z don't promote such things on diz hea site massa ! Lol

Digressing... One should always be searching for good, hell better than good at all times. If not you need to be juggin' to the next because better is always within reach, you just gotta stretch that mental capacity to newer heights.

For those that missed the entire message, here it goes... YOU MISSED IT ! Lmao good day young lads please do have a marvelous day of countless pleasantries !

Dreams Don't Come True... They're Made

There's such naivety in the thought that dreams can come true, sure than can but you have to make them. Here's some truth serum for that ass, there is no magic carpet unless you make it, and there sure as hell ain't no magic genie unless you're acting as one for Halloween ! Lol

Get that cloud bubble of fiction out of your head and start livin', your dreams don't create themselves you do. Love yourself, love others & love what you do. Never second guess your talent and if you do, make sure you have some real "no-men" around you to keep you in check. And by no-men I mean the people that will call you out on your shit in a heartbeat, that's what real love is.

So to all you that think that football player is gonna "save" you and change your life forever, or to those men that think they can manipulate every walking female to get what they want for some sense of fulfillment, guess again. When you do things will malicious intent it comes back tenfold... it's called karma or what I like to call a thorn covered boomerang lol.

Until next time my loves, keep on pushin' onward and upward ! :)