NOMO FOMO

Do you sometimes wish you could be in two places at once? Do you get anxiety about missing things/events? Do you get jealous when your friends go out and you can't make it? Chances are you have a fear of missing out. You'd be surprised how many people have it, so many people want to create memories, and the thought of missing out on them can be overwhelming.

In college I struggled a lot with F.O.M.O. I'm a city girl so moving to a small town was a big adjustment. I remember looking at friends and cousin's Instagram hating that I couldn't make it to a club, dinner, or where ever because it was almost two hours away, and I had a paper due or school commitment the next day. I was in a rush to graduate because I was tired of missing out on the fun, or so I thought.

I'm here to tell you that, looking back, I didn't miss out on anything that wasn't destined for me to experience. Enjoy life. You aren't missing anything. You are exactly where you need to be, don't second guess it. And please know that things aren't always as they seem. Sure those pics on Insta look like people are having the time of their lives, when in reality that smile could fade just as quickly as the flash on their cameras.

I hate to keep mentioning J Cole but you've truly gotta Love Yourz. There's no such thing as a life that's better than yours. Stop comparing your life to peers, everyone's journey is different for a reason. Just enjoy life, don't force it. Everything that is meant for you will come, just have a little faith.

Your Time's Comin, Just Wait On It

It's funny because I write these blog posts to inspire others, when in reality I'm simultaneously having a conversation with myself. I suppose there's nothing wrong with that, perhaps I'm simply killing two bird with one stone; but who throws rocks at birds anyway? lol

On to the blog. How many of you are or have been like: "when is my turn?", "when do I find the love of my life?", "when will I find something I'm passionate about?", "where and when will my next blessing come from?" I've thought all of these things at one point or another and the answer is you don't. You don't know, and you have to play the waiting game, but trust and believe everything will manifest in God's perfect timing.

Lately nearly all of my fb friends (not all I'm being dramatic) are getting engaged. which don't get me wrong, it's a beautiful thing; but I can't help but think "when will I be up next?" It's normal, it's human, and it's natural. My current mantra, and don't kill me for continuously shoutin' J Cole out, but "there's no such thing as a life that's better than yours".

And it couldn't be any more truthful. No matter how happy, in-love, successful, stress-free, or well put together someone looks doesn't mean that things are all peachy on their end. Everybody. and I mean EVERYBODY is going through something, don't be fooled by the IG facade.

One thing I've had to do was stop comparing my life to others. We are all born with different identities for a reason, and let's face it, if you knew when and where everything was gonna happen that would be quite a boring life to lead.

So my advise to you as well as myself, is to stick it out and just wait on it. Your season is coming and you better believe the wave of blessings you'll receive will be far greater than your wildest dreams. Don't wait around for your life to begin, start creating life now, the rest is just the juicy cherry on top!

Today: Come What May

Wake up with the attitude of champions. Nobody knows what each day will bring, but you've gotta be well equipped to face good or bad encounters with strength and tolerance. Have you ever felt like today is history and tomorrow is a mystery? Like you have no earthly idea what's coming at you next, but you pray to God you can handle it?

Don't let the obstacles that come your way deter you from your ultimate goal. Things may set you back, but don't let anything completely stop you. You've gotta have that Kanye mentality and drive with full force towards what it is you believe in; after all, no one will believe in you if you don't first believe in yourself.

It's okay to be a little scared or even unsure, but don't let fear be the reason you didn't go after your dreams. Start saying your mantra today: "Come What May, I will breathe success out of this day." Obstacles and trials will come, but allow yourself to live without holding on to the edge. Make everyday count for something, don't sit around waiting for the next incident to happen, you owe yourself more than that.

And dare not compare your life to others, there is no comparison when you are looking at good and great. It's as simple as silver and gold, hierarchy exists regardless. In the words of J Cole "Love Yourz"

No such thing as a life that's better than yours