Comparison Is The Thief Of Joy

If you've wanted to know what your classmates have been up to, or how they're living, you'll know that social media is the devil. And I say that because it gives you a false positive. You see, most people on social media like to flex; so here you are all down and out because you feel you aren't living up to the standard of your fellow classmates, while most of them are frontin' and flexin' on the daily.

I used to beat myself up in college, because I graduated a year later than I was "projected" to. And when I sat down, I realized it only mattered to me, and everyone in my life that supported me was just happy that I was graduating at all.

Don't let someone else's perspective interfere with your own. Nobody's life is better than the next, no matter what you see on social media. Take the time to focus on your own growth, and just simply live.

The only competition you should be in is with yourself. Stop worrying about the next man and get with your best plan, at your future. This life is a one-shot opportunity, don't waste it consumed with the lives of others that ultimately have nothing to do with your personal growth and prosperity.

Keep your joy. Live your life. Compare your new self to your old self.

5 Reasons...

Why You Need To TRAP

(Take Risks And Prosper)

5. Legendary. When I think of uber greatness I think of brilliance. Who doesn't wanna make history and be talked about for centuries to come? Taking risks is all about doing what they said can't be done, proving a point, and living surpassing your wildest dreams. It's never too late to be legendary, everyone has greatness in them, they just have to tap into it.

4. You Are Custom-Made. No one is like you and that's powerful. No one can do what you do, so milk it for all you've got. Don't let people try to restrain you, if you wanna be a quadruple threat, by all means let your light shine. Use your uniqueness to separate you from all the rest.

3. Your Future's At Stake. Your future life depends on your current. If you set your sights low that's all you're gonna get. But if you dream of a better life and seek it with every fiber of your being, destiny's gonna set you up right where you belong.

2. Nothing To Lose. What do you seriously have to lose? Besides regret if you don't go for it. You have two choices: 1. Risk it all to gain it all or 2. Dwell on the shoulda-coulda-woulda's the rest of your life.

1. Major Key. Shout out to DJ Khaled! lol but seriously, if you wanna be successful, the only option is to jump out of your comfort zone. Yes it's gonna be scary but it's also gonna be well worth it, believe in yourself.

NOMO FOMO

Do you sometimes wish you could be in two places at once? Do you get anxiety about missing things/events? Do you get jealous when your friends go out and you can't make it? Chances are you have a fear of missing out. You'd be surprised how many people have it, so many people want to create memories, and the thought of missing out on them can be overwhelming.

In college I struggled a lot with F.O.M.O. I'm a city girl so moving to a small town was a big adjustment. I remember looking at friends and cousin's Instagram hating that I couldn't make it to a club, dinner, or where ever because it was almost two hours away, and I had a paper due or school commitment the next day. I was in a rush to graduate because I was tired of missing out on the fun, or so I thought.

I'm here to tell you that, looking back, I didn't miss out on anything that wasn't destined for me to experience. Enjoy life. You aren't missing anything. You are exactly where you need to be, don't second guess it. And please know that things aren't always as they seem. Sure those pics on Insta look like people are having the time of their lives, when in reality that smile could fade just as quickly as the flash on their cameras.

I hate to keep mentioning J Cole but you've truly gotta Love Yourz. There's no such thing as a life that's better than yours. Stop comparing your life to peers, everyone's journey is different for a reason. Just enjoy life, don't force it. Everything that is meant for you will come, just have a little faith.

5 Reasons...

To Bet On You

5. You Are EVERYTHING. Don't you ever go second guessing yourself. You have what it takes to be great. Let go of whatever is holding you back and go for it. Your dreams are only as believable as you are.

4. You Are Dependable. If you can't depend on anyone else, who is that guaranteed support? That's right yourself. Like Beyonce said:"I know that I will never disappoint myself." Count on you and your dreams will come true!

3. You Are Worthy. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to shine. Bet on you and you'll never get left behind.

2. You Are Custom. There is no one like you in this world. Some may have similarities but you are a rare gem custom-made by God himself. Don't let anyone try to diminish your unique, you were born this way.

1. You Are Brilliant. Your ideas matter. Your gift matters. And it's only right that you showcase that to the world. Don't second guess yourself, you have it in you, all you've gotta do is use it.

5 Reasons...

Mistakes Are Okay

5. They Make You Great. Think of a mistake as a re-do. Everything you did wrong the first time should be all the ammo you need to create a masterpiece the second, third, or hundreth time.

4. They Inspire. They say "when you're down the only way is up" and what better way to get motivated than to gain inspiration off of your mistakes?

3. They Shape. Mistakes have a way of making you more persistent than ever. Mistakes ultimately shape you into the person you are destined to be.

2. They Humble. There's no better truth serum than a "no" or a missed opportunity. Humbling experiences create humility, don't be ashamed, everyone needs a dose of humble pie every once in a while.

1. They Teach. Above all, the mistakes teach you to give your all. They make you stronger, wiser, and ultimately better. Look at a mistake as a means of another direction, just a small detour to you destination; you'll still get there, just not as easily as you'd hope.

All Ladies Should B.Y.O.B

**Disclaimer: This will not be a post about alcohol lol. There's always a method to my madness, just ryd with me.

So what's B.Y.O.B? Believe in Your Own Beauty.

You is kind.

You is smart,

You is important.

In the words of the late great Dr. Seuss:

 "You are you, that is truer than true, there is no one alive that is youer than you"

Believe in yourself. You are a classic that can never be replaced. You bring substance, passion and brilliance. Sure there will always be somebody smarter, prettier, and appealing but they aren't you. What is something special about you that no one can take away? That's your gift, let it radiate.

Don't ever let somebody try to diminish your worth, your beauty, your being. You are everything you were meant to be. You possess the power to shine through trying times, and live like you haven't been through a thing.

Embrace your beauty. You are specially made for the right souls to appreciate. Harvest your greatness and only showcase it to the ones that will appreciate it the most. Go be great, you don't have a choice!

Today: Come What May

Wake up with the attitude of champions. Nobody knows what each day will bring, but you've gotta be well equipped to face good or bad encounters with strength and tolerance. Have you ever felt like today is history and tomorrow is a mystery? Like you have no earthly idea what's coming at you next, but you pray to God you can handle it?

Don't let the obstacles that come your way deter you from your ultimate goal. Things may set you back, but don't let anything completely stop you. You've gotta have that Kanye mentality and drive with full force towards what it is you believe in; after all, no one will believe in you if you don't first believe in yourself.

It's okay to be a little scared or even unsure, but don't let fear be the reason you didn't go after your dreams. Start saying your mantra today: "Come What May, I will breathe success out of this day." Obstacles and trials will come, but allow yourself to live without holding on to the edge. Make everyday count for something, don't sit around waiting for the next incident to happen, you owe yourself more than that.

And dare not compare your life to others, there is no comparison when you are looking at good and great. It's as simple as silver and gold, hierarchy exists regardless. In the words of J Cole "Love Yourz"

No such thing as a life that's better than yours

 

Failure Is Simply A Restart

So you didn't exactly get that job you were hoping for, that car, or that grade... it's okay. You've gotta stop looking at failure as the finish line and reboot your butt back to the starting point.

If you want to be successful in anything, a word you have to become all too familiar with is "NO"; You'll hear it more than you would like to (in many different forms), but let that 'no' mean "try again". That's the beauty about life, if one route doesn't work, pick a new one; If one person says "we aren't interested", chances are, there will be someone who is.

Like J.Cole said: "We all got dreams and we got the right to chase them." There is ultimately no reason for you to stop chasing your dreams. The very minimum thing you can do is try, if it doesn't work out don't give up, your mistakes will only make you better.

Failure is simply a fork in the road, two options, one outcome. Try one route and if it doesn't work, trek like hell towards your destiny in the other direction. Perseverance is what separates the great from the good. So go ahead and make the most of this Monday, you've already got the restart of a new week to catapult you where you need to be!

I will LIVE!

Sometime you've gotta be your own cheerleader, not everyone you support will reciprocate. It's okay, as long as you have a goal and a vision nothing can ultimately stop you but YOU. You've gotta choose to live, in all of life's peaks and valleys, spirals and edges, you've gotta fight for what you believe.

Choose to live and chase your dreams, don't expect anyone to do it for you. Choose to be the exception instead of the rule; Live in your truth: your natural born gift, trust me you'll thank yourself later.

Don't let doubt, fear, naysayers, dream-killers or your opponents distract you from your ultimate goal. After all, you don't wanna regret not going for what it is that you love for the rest of your life. Give it your all, drive it through until you get where you want to be, everything will work out as it should.

You will never know the beauty that life has to offer if you give up. More importantly, you want to establish a legacy that will stand the test of time. Don't give up on yourself because I'm not giving up on you.

P.S. I love all of my Ryders, thanks so much for all of the love and continued support, you guys are literally EVERYTHING!

Back In It, Been A Minute

Wassup my Ryders! I'm Back! One thing I've learned throughout this year hiatus (yes it's been a little over a year, I can hardly believe it myself) is that I absolutely love and miss what this blog, and what all of you readers mean to me. In saying that, I cannot promise you a blog everyday but rest assure I'm back for good.

I feel like I should write this long drawn out open letter to you guys to update you, but nobody cares, just keep putting out content right? lol. Needless to say I've been doing some serious soul searching and in doing so it led me back here. Any-who I hope you all have been well, and more importantly I hope you all have grown tremendously.

With that being said, I hope you all have been inspired in some way or another during my hiatus. That's the beauty about life, there is always something to take from each journey. I hope that I can continue to bring creative content to you guys, and I intend to be inspired by you all, just as you all are inspired by me.

No matter what life throws at you, nothing can ultimately stop you from achieving your dreams but you. Even if you've taken a break, lost interest, or fell out of love with your dream don't give up because your dream didn't give up on you. Everything is attainable if you just believe.

OKAY that's enough hoopla for one post lol thanks for all of the love and continued support, and I will catch you all in the next post.

Are you Buffering or BS-ing?

You know the saying 'fake it til you make it'? On one hand, you are pursuing your dreams, but on the other hand you technically aren't living in the now. Needless to say I prefer the realistic approach as it pertains to all things. I say pick a lane and commit to it. You won't fully invest toward anything without a definite commitment.

If you aren't afraid, analyze yourself for a moment. What is it that you want out of this life? Why do you want it? And lastly, how do you intend to get it? If you can answer these three questions elaborately then you're on your way.

There comes a time (some much sooner than later) when you have to stop making excuses and execute a plan. And when that time comes, there lies an inevitable question: Are you Buffering or BS-ing? While the two can be misconstrued as equals, there is a great divide; It's okay to buffer, when you're in buffer mode things are getting done, slower than others, but getting done none the less; It's kinda the equivalent of "slow money is better than no money." Oh but when you BS to the best of them lol nothing is getting done, all talk no action.

I challenge you to throw away anything that is holding your greatness captive; Excuses, fear, doubt, or whatever it may be let it go. Get rid of all negative energy telling you you can't do something and hone in on that inner voice that is dying to be released. Take control of your life and buffer like hell if need be. Make a plan, create a vision board, feed off of inspiration, consult with a friend or mentor. The only thing stopping you from attaining your dreams and goals is you, take a leap of faith and try. Try and if you fail at least you know you've given it your all.



P.S. Hey my beautiful Ryders! I've missed you all so much, and I'm so grateful to be back. This time I'm back for real and for good! I will be writing 2-3 posts a week to get my feet wet again. Until next time or next post, be safe and blessed!

If It Ain't Good You Gotta Jugg !

I heard this quote from Scrappy and I must say it's the realest shit I've heard in a min. It's never not nothin' if it ain't good, but that's just my personal opinion lol. I mean seriously, what good is good if it doesn't exist? I'm like TIP I don't want no mediocre NOPE ! Lol

Imma let that marinate...

Lol back to the topic at hand, why stay if you can't play? Why settle when you can meddle... Wait let me rethink that one lol, sounds quite stalker-ish and I'z don't promote such things on diz hea site massa ! Lol

Digressing... One should always be searching for good, hell better than good at all times. If not you need to be juggin' to the next because better is always within reach, you just gotta stretch that mental capacity to newer heights.

For those that missed the entire message, here it goes... YOU MISSED IT ! Lmao good day young lads please do have a marvelous day of countless pleasantries !

Do You Prefer Frisbee's or Boomerang's?

Yes Frisbee's or Boomerang's. There's no middle or in-between you've gotta pick one. If you aren't sure, come and take a walk with me.

Frisbee's are the people that come into your life, take a lot but give a little, use and abuse, and never appreciate you. You release them to the world and they never return. You categorize them as Frisbee's or lessons because they weren't destined to be in your life forever, even if you really want them to.

Boomerang's are the people that know your worth but don't feel deserving of your presence. This has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with them. They love and appreciate you but have so much going on within themselves they run away because they can't make sense of it. But what makes them different from Frisbee's, is that a Boomerang will return. A Boomerang will come back with more passion, knowledge and unconditional love for you because they see the gold in your soul.

In saying that, be cautious because Frisbee's and Boomerang's can appear to be either or; It's up to you to decipher the two. Just as beautiful people can be ugly inside, and ugly people can be beautiful inside... it's all the same. Listen, observe, and think logically. Your life is yours, you get to decide who you want in it and who should go away. But take it from me, negative people will only stifle you even if you find the positive in them. Keep positive people around you and you will receive the best gift ever known to man-kind... PEACE !

Some Days You Want To Relive Forever, But What If Life Get's Greater Each Day?

They say without storms one wouldn't know how to appreciate the sunlight. But without sunlight can one appreciate the storm? I've been asking myself this question, as I've experienced and endured the biggest storm of my life. So much confusion, and questions arose as to why it happened to me, why I was the chosen one; But today I say why not? why not me? why not get through the storm, come out stronger and prepared for my blessings?

True enough I wouldn't want to relive these past two weeks again, but at the same time I'm grateful because it freed me;catch-22 the hard way lol. I released all of my demons that were holding me down, and now feel like nothing can stop me because God's got me.

There's nothing like the security that God provides. Knowing that no matter what obstacles arise, and they will, He'll be right by your side every step of the way. That kind of love is what I've been desiring my entire life, sure I've had my Mom provide it exceptionally well, but a Father... I thought I'd been overlooked until now.

So now I am looking forward to the future, no need to look back because I've already been through that. There's only happiness and prosperity on the roads I'll travel from here on. God has witnessed my struggle and now has blessed me anew, and I couldn't be more grateful. I'm ready to live an infinite amount of happy days, loving God and my family, and bettering myself with each passing day.

Happy Labor Day Ryders, I Love You All Tremendously !