If Actions Speak Louder Than Words, Why Do We Still Need To Hear Them?

This is a question I've been asking myself, after having a talk with my best friend the other day. It made me think about upbringing, and how differently people are raised to express love, emotion and feelings. If it is not somewhat equivalent to the way you express, is it still adequate? or is it then obsolete because you don't connect with their way of showing love and appreciation?

I had that problem with the last guy I dated. He would show he cared in little ways, yet I still needed to hear it, which was like pulling teeth for him. Being of a different ethnicity, he was taught to show rather than tell how much you care for someone, while I was raised to both show and tell. It made things difficult, especially when I wanted to define the relationship. He'd say he just wanted to be friends, but would act in a way that confused me.

If someone doesn't say it, they don't care right? Wrong. Pay attention to non-verbal cues, most of our communication is based in part by gestures that don't include speech anyway. Everything you need to know is right in front of you, you can get answers without directly asking them. Want to know if he/she cares? Ask him/her to do or go somewhere he/she hates for you, or create a scenario that would show you how he/she feels. The response will allow you to fill in the question marks.

I even challenge you to show how you feel without uttering a word, and see if it translates. It doesn't have to be a boyfriend/girlfriend, it could be a friend or family member. Just test it out, and see how powerful non-verbal communication is. Just because someone doesn't say it, doesn't mean they don't feel it. Everyone expresses in their own way, be open to all aspects, you might even grow to like it.

Everyone Needs Encourgement, Even Me

 

This was my message from God today, I've talked about it previously in a post, and they still seem to be spot on with my life. These little gems are the inspiration I need when I feel down or more importantly...alone. I'm sure I'm not the only one that goes through these spells of loneliness, and I definitely won't be the last.

There are times when I am literally in a room full of people and I feel distant and disconnected. Partly because I haven't met anyone that fully understands me (aside from my Mom). I long for a friendship that's a connection beyond what I've experienced thus far. Don't get me wrong, I love my family and small circle of friends, but I crave a deeper connection with someone, one that I can only attain through the realm of a significant other.

Dating, for me, is discouraging. Guys don't want to get to know you, or court you; The focus is 'how can I add her to my body count?', and I know this isn't true for all guys, but I've yet to come across the ones that are actually into what my mental magnitude has to offer. It makes marriage and kids seem like an unattainable feat.

Needless to say, today was one of those days, and that hug... although there was no physical contact, was much needed. These messages make me feel as if words I've yet to utter have been heard. It also gives me hope that, although right now things aren't what or where I want them to be, in due time everything will fall into place and make sense. It's things like this that can transition my day for the better, and for that I'm grateful. If you're ever in need of a pick-me-up, head over to Facebook and get the 'message from God' app, it's far better than a typical horoscope and could help you as much as it does for me. Happy Monday my friends, let's make this a week of groundbreaking excellence !

5 reasons...

I'm Addicted to Froyo !

5. Great Substitute. If you're trying to become more health conscience like myself, froyo is the way to go. It's fewer calories than ice cream and guiltless. Not to mention they have sorbet flavors; whenever I choose not to get cookies & cream, mango tango is my frozen dream lol.

4. Affordable. I've been to some spots where you can easily spend $7 or more on froyo and I'm sitting there like, is this real life or nah? Lol but my favorite place Five Spot is the Five Below of froyo (and that rhymed !). So basically if you wanna get crazy with the yogurt intake it doesn't  matter how high you pile it to the sky it'll be $5 plus tax, but if you're sensible (but who is?) it will be less. I'm gonna let you be the guess of how much mine costs lol.

3. It's Healthy? Yes the question mark was intentional because after I'm done with it, the health factor is questionable lol. The yogurt itself starts off healthy until I add an overly-generous amount of toppings to it lol. Does snicker and Oreo pieces, caramel, and cheesecake bites count as healthy if they're under a layer of fruit? I think so ! Lol

2. Blank Canvas. The artist in me likes the creative freedom I have when creating my masterpiece. Lol I know it's food but presentation is EVERYTHING ! If it's not gonna be 5 star quality then why eat it?

1. It's Crack. I don't know what they put in that frozen yogurt but it keeps me coming back; so much so that I was about to get a free froyo Tuesday thanks to their app that gives credit for each one you buy, and once you reach 12 purchases the next one is free99 !

*** PSA: On a more unhealthy note lol, today is Free Doughnut Friday ! It's actually National Doughnut Day but I couldn't resist lol. Stop by your local Krispy Kreme for a free ridiculously delicious doughnut of your choice, no purchase necessary !

Don't Think Just Do

There are a million reasons not to do something, but you only need one to succeed. Over thinking and analyzing every aspect of what could negatively happen can shatter your dreams. Don't be the reason you didn't live up to your full potential... Give it all you've got !

If there is something you love don't let anything hold you back. Stop thinking and do what makes you happy. Damn the critics, naysayers, haters, and the non-supporters ! Believe me they'll still be there when you get to the top. Focus on pleasing yourself and disregard anything that comes in the way of that.

Everything starts and ends with you, primarily your mind. If you believe you will fail, you will fail... miserably. But if you believe you can make it, you will fail along the way, but you will achieve that goal because of your initial mind frame. The key to success is remembering why you started, without that what's the point?

Don't get overwhelmed by how long something will take, the time will pass regardless; besides, anything worth having will take time so you'd better start growing some patience lol. Now is as good as any to get started on your career... can't wait to meet you at the top !

You'll Find Results When You Stop Looking

You know when people say: "that came out of nowhere"? It didn't come out of nowhere, it was unexpected to you, but nothing comes as a surprise to God. He strategically throws curve balls in your life to see how you react to change, which inevitably determines if you're ready for what he really has for you, or if he should keep it longer.

I am a true believe that nothing is in vain. Everything that you've endured without your lifetime has happened only to make you the person you are destined to be. You could be far away from being that person, halfway, or there right now; and if you are right now chances are you're appreciative because of the things you went through.

One of the most common aspects of humanity is out desire to know. We want to see it, touch it and feel it. It's hard to walk by faith when sight is so essential to our validation process. But at that very moment that you stop looking, seeking and searching... Then is when all things will fall into place. Relax and let God do his job, you're in good hands (better than State Farm lol #noshade)

Whatever it is you desire will be yours at the right time. Even if you feel like it will never happen, hold at least a small ounce of faith and it shall be done. It's okay to have moments of discouragement... let it out, just as long as you pick back up recharged and focused. Your time is coming, just be ready for the ride.

Win or Learn, Never Lose

Every loss isn't a loss when you take something  from it, it is only when you feed the negativity that you lose in more ways than one. I challenge myself daily to find the positive in all things, and it's especially trying on bad days, but who can appreciate summer without winter?

You may an endured more losses than wins, but that doesn't make you a loser; if you're still going for what it is you wish to obtain you've already won. So many people quit at the first sign of adversity, triumph, or difficulty... but without pressure coal couldn't turn into a diamond. In other words... keep trekking you are destined to shine !

With each setback comes a wealth of knowledge. Don't cheat yourself by avoiding facing your failures; Maybe it didn't work out because you didn't want it enough, or it wasn't meant for you... there is always something to take from every experience. And just because you think you know whats best for you doesn't mean it will flow melodically, God has already planned out your purpose.

Whenever you feel like giving up after losing at something remember why you started; That will be the extra push you need to keep going when you don't feel like it. Think of the story you're creating for yourself, no one wants to read a 'perfect' book, so take the loss with ease, it's only making you better. And you'll appreciate all that you know and have gone through when you get where you want to be. Learn something today to better your tomorrow.

Be Selective With Whom You Choose To Create History With

This pertains to all aspects of your life: business, personal, and everything in-between. It's essential that you treat your future like your baby, a protect the brand you are initiating. You can't just make history with every and any one, so choose wisely... this is after all your imprint for eternity.

While it may seem like a good idea to go in business with friends or collaborate with others, really think it out. Don't make temporary decisions that will deflect the bigger picture you seek for your future. Every move you make should be strategic, because ultimately, every move counts.

Contrarily, have you ever just though of the concept of family? Like how you pick (in most cases) who you want to build a life with and create a life with. That decision alters your life in a direction, opposite of what could be, say with another person. You really are literally writing the chapter of your life when you make life choices that change you forever. I don't know about you, but I don't take that kind of power lightly.

When engraving your mark into the universe, make sure that you are making the necessary steps to create history like never before; make something that is authentically you. Tests will arise to distract you and see how bad you really want to reach your goal, stay focused and maneuver around the madness. Temporary things come easily and quick, Permanent things come gradually... but hold on, it'll be well worth it. I read this quote the other day that said: Everyone is gifted, but most people never open their package. Don't be one of millions that choose to keep their gift wrapped, open it and use the hell out of it... it's your destiny !