Root of All Problems= Society?

What if time-lines didn't exist?

What if we all ignored societies expectations and lived in the moment?

As women we have a ticking time-bomb from age 16. There's the sweet sixteen party, then there's prom, high school/college sweetheart (maybe), career, marriage by 30, white picket fence equipped with a baby and a dog, and finally happily ever after? At what point does the bomb explode?

I mean really, who makes this stuff up? Who say down and said if you don't have a certain thing by a certain age you aren't living life? It's all still so bizarre to me that if you haven't obtained these things at the designated time slot, you might as well move outer space for being an alien.

There's so much pressure in regards to life and it's stepping stones. You don't wanna live too fast, but you most definitely don't wanna move to slow. There has to be a happy medium which accommodates every spectrum of your life. You only get one make it count.

Who said you had to have all of your ducks in a row by 25? I've driven myself crazy with the notion of predetermined growth. Like all things are supposed to fall into place and make sense in your twenties (nope). Like my decisions are minute compared to someone else's idea of a pleasant life. As long as you are pursuing what matters should be the real focus right?

Why can't we humans just live and forget about numbers, clocks and times? Your age should not dictate what you can and can't do. Why can't we all just be in the present and revel in it? Forget what society expects "average" people to acquire and create your story in history.

This is my canvas, Imma paint it how I wanna baby

Don't Let Your Temporary Feel Like An Eternity

Why is it easier to be depressed than happy? Hopeless than hopeful? Victim's instead of victors? We've all fallen victim to at least one of the words mentioned which brings about one simple question: Why is it easier to believe hate than love? I mean really think about it. We believe an insult before a compliment, why?

Why do we consume ourselves with negativity yet stray from the positive. This is something I've been struggling with since August. I had a life changing event and it altered my entire perspective. I stopped writing, why? Because I lost hope, faith and my peculiar optimism I've had since the day I was born.

It''s messages like the one above that helped me get through the tornado like dust that I'd settled in. You never know how two simple words can change the magnitude of someone's day. YOU MATTER, yes you, you really do. Every once in a while it's nice to know that you're needed, you're loved, and that your mere existence isn't in vain.

Bottom line, don't allow a temporary circumstance dictate your future. Don't let it consume you, and if it does, don't let it linger too long, take control of your life. Write, talk to someone or yourself so you can really hear your thoughts aloud. Your eternity is what you make it, believe in yourself, never give up, and ride out the storm, it won't be much longer.

I keep my head high, I got my wings to carry me

All IN or All GONE

Nobody likes second-best, nor does anybody remember; Name one monumental person that came in 2nd place... I'll wait. You won't make your mark in history by playing second to the greats, either you are or you aren't.

You have it in you to operate at your maximum potential, but the key is wanting it. How much do you want to make a difference? How bad do you want to attain your dreams? It all starts and ends with these two questions.

In life I've learned that you've gotta be all in or completely out. You can't do something half-ass and expect exceptional results. You can't have a billionaire's mindset with pennies... okay you can, but you get what I'm trying to say lol. Bottom line, if you want something, ANYTHING, you've gotta go for the gold.. the pure 24k gold, not the imitation kind; the only time imitation is acceptable is in the form of flattery, and even then you're treading a thin line lol.

There's no middle man when it comes to passion. There's no in-between, no escape plan, it's all or nothing. You have to choose when it comes to your dreams, do you half-way want it or do you whole-way need it. The choice is yours, have a good one my loves ! :)

Shambles are Setups for Surprises

Raise your hand if your life feels like you're in the middle of a hurricane. Keep them raised if you have no idea what the future holds. Clap your hands if you know giving up will only set you back further than what you already are.

You are not alone, you are NEVER alone. Everyone is experiences some type of storm currently, and the only option is to whether it. When the clouds clear, the sun shall shine brighter than ever before, and I don't know about you, but I'm more than ready for brighter days.

Try finding the positive in the hardest of times. Not working? Had to sit out a semester? Everything's falling apart at work? Too much stress for one person at school? Things could always be worse, so be grateful for everything you are blessed with, it could all be taken away in a second.

These shambles as I like to call them are only for the betterment of your future. Don't ask God for something and expect him not to set you up for it. All the pain, sacrifice and sorrow will be understood once you realize why you were born; and that moment comes once God feels you're ready to receive the life he has in store for you. Don't fight change, the surprise comes after the storm when the sun decides to rise.

5 Reasons...

I took a Hiatus  

5. Butterfly Effect. Within the time-span of 3 months my wings have been expanding and are almost ready for lift-off. I have been transitioning and becoming the Candis I've always desired to be. With that being said, I had to let go of my caterpillar ways so that I could break out of my cocoon to soar at my highest potential the way God intended.

4. Questionable Mentions. One of the primary reasons I had to step back from blogging was the uncertainty of readers. I would give everything and an extra 10% in all of my work and felt like nobody was receiving it. This is solely because I seldom received feedback; I've found that people are either shy, indifferent or oblivious to the comments section under my posts lol. But it's all good, if y'all love it and receive it that's all that matters to me, because I'm out to make a difference.

3. Battery Recharge. I can't remember the last time I took time for myself to really just relax and do nothing. I have spent my entire life being productive: working, educating myself and writing. This is the time I have the time (and grateful I am) to chill and recharge my batteries. I put so much focus on this empire I've envisioned, but Rome wasn't built in a day right?

2. Altered Perspective. I knew I had to step back from writing once I began to do it for the money. I was so hungry for instant gratification that I would over-extend myself and spend money I didn't have "investing in myself." I had to come to realize that the money will come, I just have to sow my seed and watch it flourish.

1. Life. As the saying goes "shit happens" and completely knocked me off my rocker. Got me down to my knees and I had no other choice at that point but to stay in position and pray. I had to cut some things out of my life, and more importantly people; It's all in preparation for what's to come in the future, and I can't have anything holding me back for the 99 and the 2000 ! lol

I'll neva let ya down Imma shine on sight !

Loser Takes All !

Yes I wrote that correctly, but re-read if you must. Loser or Los-er is only what you make it. If it means nothing to you when someone says it you won't care, but oh contraire...

Ultimately you are what you eat and believe. There's only power in things you accept as true, otherwise why would you get in your feelings about it?

Let's reflect... How many times have you gotten mad at someone for saying something you disagreed with? Not being able to accept criticism is a form of immaturity. Learn to listen for understanding instead of hearing to respond.

5 easonsRay...

I wanna hear a Pig Latin song 

5. OveLay. How many ways can I spell the words ? How many trees can be filled with birds?

4. RilliantBay. Do you see what I see? What a beautiful reflection starring back at me !

3. EarlessFay. If you don't want me then don't talk to me go ahead and ____ yourself.

2. NtertainingEay. L-O-N-G ickDay

1. Ilarioushay. Try saying your name in Pig Latin 5 times fast, then imagine it over a dope song. AndisCay x 5, here's the song in my head lol.

And here's a lil sum for those that never have heard a pig Latin song, can you make one better?