Be your own cheerleader

One thing you will learn in life, probably sooner than later, is that no one will take care of you like you will. Often times you may find yourself disappointed in people because they don't come through for you; that disappoint is there because you would do it for them. Don't expect anything from anyone, if they add to your life appreciate it, but never set expectations.

Expectations lead to disappointments, but if you rely on yourself you will never be disappointed. You know what you need and want to fulfill your life, don't depend on anyone else to see your vision if they are focused on their own.

I'm not saying don't accept help or constructive criticism, everyone needs assistance and guidance; but you have to be selective, your future depends on it. Stay focused and alert and your decisions will follow suite.  

Learn to be your own cheerleader, who wholeheartedly believes in you more than yourself, other than God? And who will sacrifice everything to see you succeed, other than God? If your response is 'me' that's correct. But if your response was a parent, friend, or significant other you've got some growing to do. Sure those people may help along the way, but ultimately your success depends on you.

In those times of doubt, despair and uncertainty have a talk with yourself. Whenever you're having a bad day stop what you're doing and sit in silence. Clear your mind by coaching yourself into positivity. The challenge in each day is to find the positive in every negative. Don't let anything stop you from reaching your dreams !

Turn Passion into Profit

Find something you love and sell the hell out of it. There's no greater feeling than doing something you love and believe in; getting paid to do it is the cherry on top. The ultimate fulfillment is giving one hundred percent of love to something and receiving that love in return by peers, fans and family members. Just take a second and think about it... you want that don't you? You've longed to share your gift with the world, now is as a good a time as any to get started.

Never dim your light because others aren't shinning as brightly as you. Don't short yourself a great life by being safe. Life is about taking risks and sacrifice, if you're willing to do that you're on your way. Don't apologize for your success, your talent and your blessings. They are meant to be showcased and appreciated, don't let it all go to waste because of others. Display who you are, there are people that will find inspiration through your story.

Always think of your next move, never think on a small spectrum. If God does everything at amplified magnitudes, what do you think he expects from you? Nothing short of grand. Yeah... the pressure is on lol God's watching, and his opinion is ultimately the only one that truly matters. If you do things with that mindset everything you touch will turn into gold, not literally lol, but it will definitely prosper if it's something you really will go the extra mile for.

A wise man once said: "Don't put off tomorrow, what can be done today." There couldn't be more factual words. Make use of each day, hour and minute. Don't let 24 hours go by without making progress and taking steps towards your goals. Each day is a learning process and experience to help you along the way, pay attention. Don't take anything for granted, and don't let pride set you back, if you need help ask, that's what Mentor's are for. There's a profit stemmed from passion waiting to manifest, get the ball rolling !

You are only as great as your weights

I know you're probably thinking: "what is she talking about now?," but as always, there's a method to my madness. What are weights you ask? Weights represent everything that is holding you down and deterring you from reaching your full potential. Weights come in all forms: friends, family, frenemies, co-workers, supervisors, teachers etc. Everyone doesn't want to see your success, and if you give them an opening, they will make you believe that you aren't worthy of the dreams you desire.

If you want to fly you've gotta eliminate the weights. All of the unnecessary baggage must go when it comes to getting ahead in life. One of the most difficult tasks to do, and hardest to get accustomed to is sacrifice. With success comes sacrifice, and more often than not, more than you bargained for.

Find your wings and let them spread freely. Open your mind up to the endless possibilities this world has to offer. The future is now; everything you do now is setting you up for your future. Don't wait another day, hour or minute to start doing what you love, the time is now.

Cut those weights and see how much further you can soar. Let go of all the fear, doubt and negativity and go for what you want. Give it all you have and watch how people appreciate and gravitate towards it. You are talented, you are worthy of showcasing it; now is the time to stop hiding and show the world what you've got. Eliminate the dead weight and gain access amongst the greats.

Don't Compare, CONSTRUCT

 

We've all fallen victim of envying someone else. It's okay, we're human. For some reason it's far more easier to see what we don't have through the eyes of others that have everything we want. And the inevitable "you always want what you can't have" doesn't help either. Don't succumb to the negativity, take the optimistic approach.

There will always be someone better looking, taller, smaller, thinner, smarter, and funnier. It's pointless to compare yourself to the world when you were created to be the individual you are. Everything you are: your smile, your mindset, your style and talent are not in vain. If God wanted the world to be boring, he would have made us all alike, that's the beauty of it all. Everyone has an identity, but it's up to you whether or not you want to stand out or blend in the crowd.

Don't get discouraged because you aren't where you know you're supposed to be. Your time will come, everything will fall into place, and that depression you are edging to creep in will be a distant memory. Everyone has a season, everyone has their 'just-do'. The stars will align only when you're up next, you're in line wait your turn. And when it is, don't second guess it, walk confidently in the direction of your destiny and never look back.

Instead of spending time comparing your life to others, and dwelling on the things you don't have, wishing you did, make it happen. Don't compare, construct. Create the life you want, and feel you deserve. Nothing will be handed to you, if you're looking for someone to save the day, look in the mirror. You are the key to your success or demise... only you. What are you waiting for? Get busy working on the new you now, so that the future you will thank you later.

*** Below is a note I wrote to myself, it's great to look at when you feel like giving up
 Patience is rewarded, but timing is everything. 
Don't get discouraged, your season is approaching.

Learn the power of forgiveness

It may not seem like a good idea at the time, but in the end you will be thankful you did. I'm not saying forgive as soon as something happens, fresh wounds must heal. Take the time to digest what happened, get over initial shock, and accept that it really did happen. Once you have taken those necessary steps, the door of forgiveness won't seem as distant or nonexistent as it did before.

People often think that forgiveness is "letting someone off the hook" and essentially telling them that what they did is okay. That is the furthest thing from the truth. When you forgive it is solely for you. Harboring pain, hurt, and anger can be detrimental to your well being; it can affect your weight, blood pressure, hair, and other bodily organs.

In life there is a choice for everything, you make choices daily; But it's up to you to pick the right choice that will be beneficial to your life. Choosing to forgive means choosing to take care of yourself. Choosing to be the victim will only dwindle your growth. Each year you gain more knowledge and understanding of your purpose on Earth, don't let one incident set you back and stifle your progress.

Forgiveness is letting it go. When you forgive you release all the negative that a situation brought you. Forgiveness is redirecting the energy by finding the good in the bad. There is positive in every negative. Yes something bad happened, but what good came from it? What did you learn about that person that did this to you? And more importantly, what did you learn about yourself? One thing is for sure, when you are going through something, if you've never had an opinion your entire life, you'll form one then. Speak up, have a voice, and stand up for yourself... no one else will. So keep your head up and be brave, you are not the victim, you are the survivor, the successor, and the source of your happiness.

This life is not promised, Don't take it for granted.

I know it's 5 reasons Friday but I couldn't bring myself to write a fun, quirky and entertaining post with everything that's going on. Instances in life make you wake up and realize that this is only a temporary stay. We buy all of these material things, but when you're gone, it has no value, no purpose, and no substance.

Today I was made aware that yet another person I've known my entire life, passed away. Death is funny, it's inconvenient, it's spontaneous, and most importantly life changing. You never know when it will happen, where or why. Death doesn't have an age or a sense of timing. But you have to face it and deal with it whether you want to or not.

With each death my perspective is altered. I grow and learn to appreciate everyone in my life as well as my own, more and more. Expected deaths are one thing, you kind of have time to prepare but, it's the unexpected ones that knock you off your feet. Don't waste time being angry or holding grudges over petty arguments, it's not worth it.

 

You have to do everything you desire in this life, and live it to the fullest. Don't live in regret, fear, or doubt life's too short for that. If you have a dream go for it with full force, don't let anything or anyone get in your way. I recently wrote that life is long and in a short period of time it can be. You can live a hard life constantly going through trials that feels longer than humanly possible in only a short span of time.

If death teaches you nothing else, it teaches you appreciation. It teaches you to place value on things that really matter like family and legacy. This life is not promised, don't take it for granted. And as Kanye' once said: "If you admire somebody you should go ahead and tell em' people never get the flowers while they can still smell em'." Make the best of each moment and loved one in our life, make sure they know you love and appreciate them, you never know when it's their time to transition.

*** R.I.P Cell aka the most Fashionable man I've ever met in my life. There's about to be some fly Angels in Heaven...spread your wings, you're apart of the Kingdom now, but you will be missed !

Let your work speak for itself

Don't be one of those people that talk more than they execute. Put in the work and let it say everything you want it to. Your work is essentially a representation of you, and what's understood doesn't need to be explained. Everyone won't wish you well. Everyone won't get it. People will want to see you fail, but it's okay.

There are a million reasons why you shouldn't do something, but all you really need is one reason why you should, to jump start your journey. In life you will experience more 'no's' than 'yes'', and there are only two outcomes, but the choice is solely yours. You either 1. Become Resilient 2. Give up.

 

 It's okay to get discouraged at times, but never give up. Discouragement builds character, makes you more strategic, and welcomes you into the real world. When you give up, you block your blessings by creating a wall. That wall can stifle you for years or forever is you allow it to; the power of your destiny is in your hands, either you want it or you don't.On the other side of that wall is everything you want and have been missing out on, expand your horizon, step out on faith, believe you are worthy.

Hard work beats talent if talent doesn't work hard. Your talent is a gift, your dream can be real. It's yours for the taking, but you have to really want it, work hard, and keep going even when you want to give up. You never know how close you are to attaining your dreams, but only the strong will survive... so armor up and get going !